A Different Perspective

Hello everyone! This blog post is going to be about an interview I did with my sister! I thought it would be interesting to get her perspective on the same environment, especially since me and my sister are not very close.

I started the interview by asking my sister about which events stuck out to her. She mentioned the Christmas tree incident, and the final's week incident as well, but she pointed out a lot of smaller memories that I thought were interesting. My sister talked a lot about the times my mom would yell at her and call her names. While these events for me were little events, for my sister, they were the events that cause her the most emotional trauma. She went in to say how every little word my mom said affected her. She told me how she lost a lot of confidence in herself and how a lot of the stuff my mom had said caused her to have really bad anxiety and depression.

Hearing my sister talk about this was crazy. My mindset throughout the years of living with my mom was that anything my mom said about me was a lie. I refused to allow the things that she said to me affect me. I was lucky, I had confidence in myself which helped in preventing the words my mom said to get to me. Hearing how the same situation caused my sister to lose confidence and even result in episodes of depression was saddening. I didn’t show it, but I felt bad that my sister spent years suffering for the stuff my mom had done.

Since my sister had been really affected by the stuff my mom has said, she developed a hatred towards my mom. Almost a blind hatred, anything my mom does, my sister ridicules. I can understand where she is coming from, I mean growing up hearing your mom call you a bitch and disappointment really takes a toll on your mind. For me, however, as much as I dislike my mom, I can’t help but appreciate the things she’s done for me (like put me through college), and thinking about these things keeps me from hating her. Overall, it was really nice talking to my sister about this topic because it’s really something me and her never discuss. I feel as if I got to know my sister a little better, which is a nice step in the right direction towards becoming closer.